So theres a 80% chance iv blown my auto hubs so i gotta fix my 4x before i can do much more riding.

Question is which is better: a quick fix of Heavy duty manual hubs, and keep running my 31s(if i went with any bigger tires id want reduced gearing, and ring and pinions are way high for em) and stock gearing which has been great for me so far(if i do how long will it hold with increased hp cause of charger and 31s?), or...

bite the bullet and go all out and swap out some SA toyotas and solve all tranny trouble bc of reduced gearing, allowing for mega flex and the ability to run 33s, at the sacrifice of some width and weight.

I would just throw some manual hubs on and run it.  If you need to go bigger start looking at a Toy swap but if you can hit all the trails you want with 31's there is no reason to upgrade.  Other then it would be fun of course. 

haha thanks for telling me what i wanted to hear. i like riding in it better than working on it anyway, sooner im back to the trails the better 

Heck, the auto-hubs went out on my 4-door daily driver.  Fortunately, I had a pair of Warn manual hubs laying on the workbench.  Fixed in a half hour.