I have to ask, but why are you needing a lift? Is it difficult to get around when off-roading on the 235's? Adding a lift, usually brings an aggressive larger tire. A larger tire brings changes to r&p. R&p change usually brings lockers. So it's a revolving door of affect and effect.
Why not just carry a set of wheels/tires for changing to an aggressive tire?
I would keep the 03's 4 cyl engine and drivetrain (cost & durability vs. downtime, hassles, etc). I would suggest that you don't look into an engine swap, you'd be better off with a second vehicle for that. Thus a second vehicle could be used exclusively for harder trails, rather than the moderate ones. If anything, see about doubling up the t-case or go with the low gear set. Since you have a 5-sp and not an auto, the lower gear set wouldn't hamper the performance of off-roading. It'll actually make you a better observer of the terrain and which gear combo in the tranny/case to use.
Think of it as a mountain gear bike scenario. You have 3 pedal gears along with up to 7 other gears to use. There are points where they will over lap and where you are too high (pedaling hard/slow) or low (pedaling easy/fast).
Your current AT's probably come in the larger size you are looking to run, so see about getting credit for your existing tires and step up to the larger size.
If you are wanting to better the off-road performance of your 4-dr, I'd look into going suspension lift, body armor like the kick panels, under belly skid plates, adding proper gears for tires, adding lockers as well, adding larger diameter tires with minimal width change to stock, add a lower t-case gear set or doubling it, and pretty much call it good till I re-evaluate my on/off roading requirements. Since you use this vehicle everyday, you will want to keep it civil for that. I suggested keeping the tires near same width, as you go larger in diameter, tires usually go wider. Problem is that adds weight and rolling resistance. With a set of gears to match on paper to the tire size, there is little to compensate for the extra resistance. Most step up to the next lower r&p to compensate for on-road accelaration and at speed acceleration, especially with a small engine.
I suggested a few things, but I'm not in your area. Driving with a rear locker will change your habits in the ice/snow at speed situations. Good luck.