There comes a point when you have to recognize your limitations and choose a way forward, sometimes the way forward means paying a professional to do the job.
Most automotive relays have either four or five terminals, so if it's only got "two prongs" then it's not a relay. A relay is an electrically controlled switch, one that uses a small current to control (switch on/off) a large current. Typically there is a coil of wire, which when the control voltage is applied, becomes a magnet that pulls a lever that closes the relay contacts switching them on - you need to figure out which are the coil terminals and which are the contact terminals before you can test the relay - easy way out in this case is to put the volt meter on the pump terminals and crank the engine see if you get power there, if you don't then you need to get to the technical stuff.