I don't think the Torquer Cam is made for the 16v, somebody correct me If I'm wrong. IF it is though, that would be a good way to get SOME of your driveability back. Your biggest issue is gearing, with 31's and stock gearing, that's where your losing the most in terms of performance. You'd be much better off, IMO, getting something like one of Trail Toughs Intermediate reduction boxes, which reduce OVERALL gearing, High and low Range. That'll give you back your 5th gear, and make the rest of your driving that much better.
As far as exhaust systems go, the stock exhaust manifold on the 16v 1.6 is pretty damn efficient, albeit a bit heavy. Calmini's header is a good one though, and very well built. Looks cool too with it's ceramic coating, and is quite durable. I've used it in the past and it did perform well. The remaining portion of the stock system, Cat, intermediate pipe and muffler, could stand improvement. A 2 " system is a good size, some like 2.25. A good free flowing cat, a big free flowing turbo type muffler, bigger tubing all around. Combine that with a good intake, I prefer the stock box with a K+N Filter, and you'll get some noticeable gains. I don't know about 15/18%, that's pretty optimistic.
All that being said, for the money, IMO, you'd be better off, and regain much more performance if you address your gearing issue, and since gear ratios lower than 5.13 are hard to come by to say the least, and expensive ( some go for as much as $750 to $1000!) if you can find them, A Trail Tough Box makes sense to me for your application. Although, I do believe skyhighranger has a couple of gearsets up for grabs in the Garage Sale forum. Get 'em while you can, they're quite rare. Then there's always the TURBO option, but that's a whole 'nother can of worms. There are plenty of opinions on this forum, and most of this has been discussed to death already. You might try doing a search for more info on power gains to get more opinions. Good Luck!